Welcome to join us if you enjoy reading self-growth, psychology, or philosophy books — and are also passionate about learning English. Let’s exchange our perspectives in English!


🍎11/20(四）讀書會

🌱時間：晚上7:00-9:30

🌱地點：好久不見•咖啡

🌱書目：《How to Know a Person》
Chapter 6— Good Talks

🌱閱讀：聚會聊天室提供書本掃描檔連結

🗣️讀書會將以全英文進行，流程如下：

1️⃣Introduction：
相見歡分享近況

2️⃣Summary & Quote sharing：
一個人會分配到1-2頁要負責整理的內容，用自己的話來重點整理幫大家複習，或是說說你對其中內容的想法、經驗或不同觀點
最後朗讀從中挑出的一兩句佳句，分享你覺得它好的地方與你的理解。

每人輪流主持十分鐘，分享完負責整理的內容後，可自由分享本章其他有共鳴的內容，也可與聽眾提問、討論

請認領想分享的頁碼，若不指定範圍則於聚會前一天隨機分配
*PDF檔案與實體書排版不同，頁碼以PDF的為準
報名範例：Kim p.85-86

Chapter 6- Good Talks
p.52 小杰
p.53 Joe
p.54 Miles
p.55 Elvin
p.56 Zita
p.57 Ross
p.58 Kim

3️⃣Discussion and feedback:
上一個環節結束後的剩餘時間，針對書中有共鳴的或不清楚的內容做自由提問、分享與討論

🗣️建議儘量事前閱讀完第六章內容，聚會時會直接進行討論。

📍讀書會IG上線啦! 會定期更新章節語錄與聚會紀錄，歡迎追蹤readventure_0624


第六章語錄分享：
⭕️Treat attention as an on/off switch, not a dimmer.
The SLANT method: sit up, lean forward, ask questions, nod your head, track the speaker. Listen with your eyes.
That’s paying attention 100%.

⭕️Be a loud listener.
When you are listening, you are like the host of a dinner party. You have set the scene. You’re exuding warmth toward your guests, showing how happy you are to be with them, drawing them closer to where they want to go.

⭕️Favor familiarity.
People have trouble picturing and getting excited about the unfamiliar, but they love to talk about what they know.

⭕️Make them authors, not witnesses.
Good conversationalists don’t only want to talk about what happened, they want to know how you experienced what happened.

❌Don’t fear the pulse.
Speaking and listening involve many of the same brain areas, so once you go into response mode, your ability to listen deteriorates.

⭕️Do the looping.
People tend to believe they are much more transparent than they really are.
Repeat what someone just said in order to make sure you accurately received what they were trying to project.

⭕️The midwife model.
In conversation, a midwife is there not to lead with insights but to receive and build on the insights the other person is developing.

⭕️Keep the gem statement at the center.
This is the truth underneath the disagreement, something you both agree on:
“Even when we can’t agree on Dad’s medical care, I’ve never doubted your good intentions.

⭕️Find the disagreement under the disagreement.
When you search for the disagreement under the disagreement, you are looking for the moral, philosophical roots of why you each believe what you do.
You’re engaged in a mutual exploration.

❌Don’t be a topper
If you want to build a shared connection, try sitting with their experience before you start ladling out your own.